tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post5351877773806100304..comments2024-03-23T20:01:30.770-07:00Comments on HefferBlog: Life is What Happens...Aka Alicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09691390225208616675noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-51972395899600837592010-02-23T13:59:03.660-08:002010-02-23T13:59:03.660-08:00Hi. In searching for running blogs, I just found ...Hi. In searching for running blogs, I just found you and wanted to express my condolances. We lost my MIL last April to cancer; a strong willed British woman who had never been sick before. We found out on Friday she had cancer and she died two days later. There are days, even know, almost a year later, that I am still reeling. <br />I hope you find your peace with this. Losing a parent is hard stuff, but sadly a part of growing upo.Kimhttp://knitten-kittens.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-55418576600563718082010-02-20T09:52:19.262-08:002010-02-20T09:52:19.262-08:00I'm so sorry, and prayers to you and Walter. ...I'm so sorry, and prayers to you and Walter. I'm glad she was able to go out on her own terms.Al's CL Reviewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05554609401299091200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-7970250178871170952010-02-18T10:00:29.540-08:002010-02-18T10:00:29.540-08:00What you just wrote sounds SO much like what happe...What you just wrote sounds SO much like what happened to my grandmother back in November.<br /><br />She had breast cancer a few years back, then had breast cancer a second time a few years after that, and then she had cancer again. This all started about 5 years ago. This last time, we found out about the cancer in June of this last year. The cancer was in back area. She had cancer in her liver, one of her lungs, some of her bones, and in her spleen. She fought it and fought hard.<br /><br />Then on a Sunday night, she started saying really weird things. My parents thought she was just dehyrdated because she hadn't been eating or drinking enough because the chemo did a number on her stomach. They took her to the ER and she was admitted. They did a brain scan on Tuesday and found it has spread to her brain. She was in and out of consciousness and didn't make a whole lot of sense when she mumbled. The week before, she was walking and laughing.<br /><br />She passed away on Wednesday. We were all there with her, her kidneys shut down, her blood pressure slowly dropped, and she hadn't "woken up" in quite some time. Then, all of a sudden, she opened her eyes but was unable to talk. About a minute later, she was gone. I think she was ready to go and just opened her eyes to tell us goodbye. <br /><br />I really do feel for your family. My family has been there and we're still there. It's amazing how much one strong person can make a difference in our lives. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family as you go down this very difficult road.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-4183224509631217642010-02-18T08:07:29.156-08:002010-02-18T08:07:29.156-08:00My heart goes out to you and Walter's family. ...My heart goes out to you and Walter's family. I, too, am sorry for your loss. Lots of thoughts and prayers going out to you all. ♥Laura Lohr : My Beautiful Lifehttp://www.lauralohr.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-5904628152310256502010-02-17T15:20:18.567-08:002010-02-17T15:20:18.567-08:00I'm so sorry for your loss! ((HUGS))I'm so sorry for your loss! ((HUGS))Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01465800584212530717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-25253502321268863602010-02-16T14:23:34.461-08:002010-02-16T14:23:34.461-08:00I'm sorry. Lots of hugs. Peace.I'm sorry. Lots of hugs. Peace.Deenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12619954455326699381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-77498698968137295812010-02-16T11:30:14.341-08:002010-02-16T11:30:14.341-08:00I'm sorry for your loss. That must be tough.I'm sorry for your loss. That must be tough.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05200952523325532145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-9666577297767962462010-02-15T22:11:52.183-08:002010-02-15T22:11:52.183-08:00Damn! I'm sorry for you family's loss. I...Damn! I'm sorry for you family's loss. I will go to bed and wake up with prayers for you. xoxoJo Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06531744273293564813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-41443955438096405832010-02-15T11:48:16.675-08:002010-02-15T11:48:16.675-08:00Your family continues to be in our thoughts. You w...Your family continues to be in our thoughts. You were very fortunate that your kids got so much time with Grandma and will always have those memories....as you know...I lost both parents before the kids were born and the saddest part as we get older is that they never got to meet the kids and the kids never got to meet and be with them....your kids were lucky for the time they had with grandma and the time they still have with grandpa! Warmest AriAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-76150867036285136262010-02-15T11:32:12.315-08:002010-02-15T11:32:12.315-08:00Cindi and Walter, I am so sorry for your loss! I c...Cindi and Walter, I am so sorry for your loss! I cant imagine what you both are going thru! We are here for you if you need anything!!! I'm glad your MIL passed under her term and with her family around her!!!<br /><br />As for what you tell your kids, I only know from experience when my grandfather died back in the dark ages when I was about 9 years old. It was my grandfather who lived in Scotland (my mom's dad). He died while we were at Girl Scout camp. My mother had found a rock with a hole in it and "just knew" and then word came. We almost immediately left the camp and were on a plane to Scotland. My mother told me everything-could my 9 year old brain comprehend EVERYTHING, I don't know but, now at the ripe age of 30+, i am very glad I was included in my Grandfathers funeral! He was a huge part of my life and my mother felt it was only fair that I should be included and should be treated as a "grown-up". Some people might not agree-but I feel children are alot stronger than we adults give them credit for being! Trust your feelings-and realize that it will hurt them too and they will cry but, I think, the honesty of including them in this "part of life" will be something that they will always remember and will grow from! But ultimately it is your choice!<br /><br />My thoughts and prayers are with you and Walter and the rest of your family! Please know I am here if you need anything!!<br /><br />PennySouthbaygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01350990842643501194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-53185664211290373662010-02-15T11:29:37.534-08:002010-02-15T11:29:37.534-08:00I'm sorry for your loss. My thoughts and pray...I'm sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers join with everyone else's - winging their way to you and your family.Calyx Meredithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00957579547686348722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-18177640145470043662010-02-15T08:36:57.404-08:002010-02-15T08:36:57.404-08:00Again, I'm very sorry. If there's anyth...Again, I'm very sorry. If there's anything I could possibly do, let me know. <br /><br />It sounds like she fought as long as she could. I hope there is peace in knowing that she was surrounded by those who loved her. <br /><br />HUGS.Irenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03163803961338323135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-44739459672039756662010-02-15T08:15:07.860-08:002010-02-15T08:15:07.860-08:00((((huggggssss))). Sorry to hear about your loss. ...((((huggggssss))). Sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts and prayer are with you and your family.Glenn Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05119271602749821767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-73975983491744220512010-02-15T08:10:49.879-08:002010-02-15T08:10:49.879-08:00I am very sorry for your loss. My husband and I a...I am very sorry for your loss. My husband and I are in that spot where neither one of us have lost a parent and I am not looking forward to figuring it out. I am glad you are there for Walter and you are going through this together.<br /><br />(((hugs)))Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03902589811626771148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-85505954687119901702010-02-15T07:30:26.230-08:002010-02-15T07:30:26.230-08:00Peace to you and your family.Peace to you and your family.Michellehttp://gomdgirlgo.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-71219156968504295362010-02-15T07:20:33.497-08:002010-02-15T07:20:33.497-08:00:( sniff.
love you. love your family. cancer suck...:( sniff. <br />love you. love your family. cancer sucks.Clarencenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-41060697440879426642010-02-15T07:06:35.632-08:002010-02-15T07:06:35.632-08:00My condolences.
First things first. Blogging abou...My condolences.<br /><br />First things first. Blogging about life is nice, but dealing with it comes first. It's hard to know what to tell kids, but a death in their family needs to be dealt with, and I think it's best to err on the side of grownup. <br /><br />I watched my mom's dad die essentially of old age. He wasn't that old by today's standards but he had had a tough life, and I think he had decided it was time. There's nothing to be afraid of.Keithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09364395150014197905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-52485353335857936662010-02-15T06:58:50.608-08:002010-02-15T06:58:50.608-08:00I'm sorry for your loss. Your family is in my...I'm sorry for your loss. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.<br /><br />You'd think that after losing my Dad earlier this year, I would know just what to say. But I don't. Instead, all I really know is that you and your family must be going through a difficult time. *hugs*Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03231464198799653331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-53676033503873339682010-02-15T05:43:27.547-08:002010-02-15T05:43:27.547-08:00So sorry for your loss. Your family is in my praye...So sorry for your loss. Your family is in my prayers.Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05317672925930347238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-76038964220153566372010-02-15T05:25:11.740-08:002010-02-15T05:25:11.740-08:00I'm sorry about Walter's mom passing. Thes...I'm sorry about Walter's mom passing. These losses are difficult and take time to be absorbed. My in-laws both died when my husband and I were young, and their passing made us make some significant changes in our own lives. Maybe her death will do the same for you all.Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04377440606704745517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-52976951018945715912010-02-15T05:15:58.145-08:002010-02-15T05:15:58.145-08:00I'm so sorry, there are no words that will rea...I'm so sorry, there are no words that will really help. I AM glad that it sounds like it was short and peaceful. I lost my mom ~10 years ago, cancer and a short 'finale.' The only thing that helps is time, I have found. The bad part is that you can't hurry time. Thinking of you and your family.Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15398496906384738920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-52325177705629094392010-02-15T04:49:14.260-08:002010-02-15T04:49:14.260-08:00I'm sorry for your loss.
But I'm glad she...I'm sorry for your loss.<br /><br />But I'm glad she was able to pass away peacefully in her home surrounded by her loved ones - I'd want the same thing for myself.joyRuNhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03033973041471006513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-22296886345845331042010-02-15T04:48:39.300-08:002010-02-15T04:48:39.300-08:00Oh I am so sorry for your family's loss. *hugs...Oh I am so sorry for your family's loss. *hugs*teacherwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15791382386588836461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-6250836322038207012010-02-15T04:41:53.473-08:002010-02-15T04:41:53.473-08:00I love to hear when people get leave this earth on...I love to hear when people get leave this earth on their own terms. It's truly amazing the crap I see when people can't let go. I know, first hand, how hard it is to lose a parent, but to put them or anyone through such unbelievable tests and procedures just drives me nuts. I'm truly sorry for your loss, yet commend your family for letting you MIL run the show till the end. Great that she was surrounded by all her loved ones. My prayers to you and your hubby.....Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12677754284276322596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141971839070256791.post-88235896961987013802010-02-15T04:26:25.709-08:002010-02-15T04:26:25.709-08:00God Bless her to live and die by her terms. Pleas...God Bless her to live and die by her terms. Please accept my most sincere condolences to both you and Walter.<br /><br />I have to agree with you, death is a part of life and the kids should be aware / part of the grieving process, although they don't need to know more than a kid their age can handle....<br /><br />You are all in my thoughts and prayers.Lily on the Roadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598295903641371197noreply@blogger.com