I haven't really fallen off the face of the earth this week.
My mother in law (Walter's mother) passed away on Friday. She had breast cancer.
It wasn't the first battle. She had breast cancer 15 years ago, and she beat it.
Then last year, it returned, only this time it was a pretty nasty strain that was more difficult to combat. She tried chemo, which made her feel like crap, and we worried because she didn't seem to get better. Less than two weeks ago the doctors told her that the cancer had returned and that it had spread to her liver, and they gave her 6 months.
I think that my MIL had no intention of lying around for 6 months waiting for death. Like most everything else I've ever witnessed the woman do, I think she decided that she was going to take control of the situation. I think she'd decided that she'd just had enough.
On Friday, surrounded by her family, she passed away, peacefully and comfortably, in her own bed, on what I believe, were her own terms.
I'll be honest, neither Walter or I have done this before, lost a parent that is, and we're pretty much just trying to figure it all out. There's a lot that we've never seen or dealt with before. We saw a lot in those 10 days as she went from being pretty sick, to not getting out of bed, to being unable to really carry on a conversation, to being unconscious, to the end. There were (and continue to be) lots of decisions to be made. How much do we let the kids see and know? (I tend to err on the side of "death is a part of life; they are old enough to know that this is what happens.), funeral arrangements, notifying family and friends, it's a lot.
In any event, I've not done much running this week, or blogging. I finally got to the gym this morning for about an hour and a half. Betty met me and made me laugh (I told her she had to, no pressure though, and she did of course).
Anyway, just wanted you all to know that I am still here and that I'll be back, but I gotta pay attention to the family this week.